Do I look like I’m 40?
This was inspired by Amber’s post who blogged about a certain incident this weekend.
Basically, she and I, along with Andy and Jonah visited a church together for the first time on Sunday. The people we spoke to after the service were really friendly and nice and everything was going well. I quickly realized that I am Much more comfortable being chatty with Amber by my side.
And then we went to coffee hour. At that point, it was just Amber and I, because Andy was back with Jonah waiting for him to crawl and catch up (I think).
And this lady, who was also VISITING, I might add and as such, you’d think might be on her best (i.e. cautious) behavior was talking to us.
And she asked if Amber was my daughter!
!
Now, I know that I have gray in my hair, and yes, Amber has a youthful appearance, but ???!
I think the shocked look and dropped jaws must’ve given us away. Of course, at that point, everyone nervously laughs and tries to brush it off, but you just KNOW that conversation is going to be awkward from then on. Ugh.
You know, I didn’t mind it So Much, when a couple of years ago, I was at a scientific meeting and someone asked me if I was a professor or a post-doc. Because well, I _am_ a bit older than the average graduate student and I was wearing a wool jacket and looked a little dressier than the average student.
However, when I was at Texas Seestor’s wedding, someone asked if I was the older sister. (and she is 3 years older than me)
*sigh*
That little mistake at her wedding, combined with this lady at church makes me think several things
1) my gray hair is becoming waaaaaaaaaaaaaay more prominent
2) the extra weight I am carrying is also making me look older than I am *sigh*
3) the tired look/circles under my eyes from getting this dang degree are also not helping
I don’t even show my BIG gray spot. Cause I part my hair on the other side. I wonder what they’d say then?
Is Amber your grand-daughter?
—
My thought, is that when we visit churches, we need to wear nametags that say
Hi, my name is
Danielle and I am
Amber’s —->
FRIEND
She can wear one that says the opposite, and we can stand on the correct side of each other.
And then, just wait to see their faces when we tell them we met ONLINE!
mwahhhh ha ha ha ha!
Cause, you know, the internet *tsk tsk* is just no place to meet friends.
*grin*
Amber says:
Hmmm…..imposter comment?
I think you look like you are 30.
Shoot, I know of a family member who is 27 and already has grey hairs.
Do I look like I’m 12?
Danielle says:
Yeah, I deleted it.
Thanks dearie.
And no, you look 19-21 to me!
SeaQueen says:
I’ve had grey hairs since 18! I keep them pretty successfully tucked away, but grad school is decidedly increasing them. I just had the fun experience of one of the other girls on the ship this last time (btw, I just returned D) was playing with my hair standing above me and shouted out to a very large portion of the science party “hey, you have grey hairs!” I’m pretty sure that she, like everyone else, thought I was younger than I am and that this was a funny thing, but I’m getting a wee bit more sensitive about it as I creep up in years…
On the flip side, I got carded the other night
So I guess it’s not all bad.
Squirl says:
Hey, I got carded about a year ago. Of course, I color my hair. Or maybe the cashier thought I’d pay her for that complimen t. I don’t like the way I look with gray hair. But it’s a much bigger deal to me than you guys ’cause I’m waaaaay older than all of you. Maybe it’s a good thing I never went for my doctorate, I can’t afford any more gray hairs.
And that woman was really stupid. She could’ve just asked if you two were related. Maybe she thought you were very young-looking for your age. I suppose she ended up feeling as stupid as she acted.
Squirl says:
Oh, and NO, you don’t look like you’re 40. Big duh on that woman’s part.
LadyBug says:
Ouch! What a blow! People always seem to think I’m older than I am, too.
Years and years ago, when I was….oh, 17? or so?…and still living with my mom and stepdad, we were eating at some restaurant with a buffet, when I spied a couple of cute guys there, too. One of them kept glancing over at our table, and I kept glancing over at theirs; so I timed it so that he and I ended up back at the buffet bar at the same time. And then….and then….he TALKED to me!! I was so excited! And do you know what he said?
“Who’s your friend?”
“HUH?”
“Your friend. The blonde.”
“That’s my LITTLE SISTER, and she’s
THIRTEEN.”
I’ve never forgotten that (or gotten over it, as you can tell).
Texas Seestor in Kauai says:
I do not think you look older than me. Nor do you look like you are 40! That person must have been missing her glasses. By the way, I also have gray hair…those hairs are just conveniently hidden in the mop of light brown hair.
Trainwreck in Kauai says:
Hmmm…someone at the wedding thought you were the ‘older’ sister? May have something to do with the fact that the ‘older’ sister(s) usually marries first…..
Danielle says:
OH DEAR!
Okay, so, I was going to be nice and ‘fix’ the way you signed your name Trainwreck…. because I’m sure you meant for it to be Trainwreck in Kauai.
But then, since you are on your honeymoon and all, I think I’ll just leave it the way it is.
Because, as HB says, I’m sure he, well, IS.
HAAAAAAAAAHahahahha
Um, sorry for those who thought this was a family show.
Trainwreck20 says:
Opps! But it is not ALL my fault! The “name” field background and the “name” field text (when typing in the name) are the same color on my computer. I can’t see what I am typing, or what is already in there. Tried to delete what was there blindly, but apparently failed
Oh, well…guess I better not make any DIRECT comments, though, hmmmm?